Does LOVING someone despite his or her FLAWS makes one a FOOL?
or it depends on the flaw?
Only a fool would think they have the perfect person with no flaws. A wise person knows there are flaws, loves someone knowing their flaws and sometimes, even finds some of those flaws endearing. brLove doesnt make us fools, but if the flaw happens to be cheating or something else major... the one we love is the fool for abusing a gift of love.
Does LOVE keep you SAFE or VULNERABLE?
Safe from what.... at Risk of what?
To expand on quotSweetbrunettesquot great response, many people make the mistake of thinking that being vulnerable means being at the mercy of the other person like falling backwards and trusting that the other person will catch you.brbrIn truth, you can feel just as vulnerable by being strong, competent, in control. Being vulnerable simply means that you have been able to drop the defensive facade long enough to allow someone else to see who you are. It is difficult, frightening, but also exhilirating and essential. How else can love surive. It needs a real connection.brbrBut the perception of vulnerability is always more apparent than real. And what is risked is not the rejection by the other, but rather than acceptance, because that means that the world has changed. Perhaps for the better, but still we must struggle with the disturbing idea that we were wrong about the world that the facade wasnt necessary !brbr we may shudder to think about all the time we spent maintaing the facade and what else we may be wrong about!!!.brbrLove encourages us to realize that we are strong enough to confront the fact that we may have been wrong about the world, that we a strong enough to deal with this vulnerability. brbrLove tells us that it is worth it! Because although Love doesnt keep us safe, it allows us to realize that we dont have to be so concerned about being safe.brbrAs has been said by quotSweetbrunettequot, quotTo risk is to livequot.
Does LOVE grow in us or we GROW in LOVE?
if both, how should the sequence go..
I THINK I emphasize that word THINK that we grow in love. It teaches us HOW to get along with the loved on or lose them. It makes us examine HOW to better the person we love without erasing the essence which we love about them. I can think of many more things in this manner but I think you get my point. Each person is challenged to GROW to accommodate the love and if the call is not answered then it is not meant to be. However it is never a reflection on the other person or on the idea of love. It is ALL about how much were willing to grow spiritually, emotionally, personality wise, in acceptance, in patience, in tolerance and most importantly the one key ingredient of not only love but also humanity how much were willing to grow in COMPASSION.brbrGood question, I dig it... and I hope it makes people stop and think a bit before they answer.
Does love bind you or set you free?
True love sets one free! It is only through love that we learn the principle elements of life and what they mean to us and how they feel.brWe learn how to give and receive, unselfishly. We learn how to forgive and be forgiven. We learn how to accept one another, completely. we learn the art of sharing and the immense feeling of fulfillment. We learn trust and not to violate that trust.brWe learn that when we love unconditionally, there are no boundaries, only the desire to expound on that which we already have.brLove is indescribably beautiful and free.br
